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'The Bachelorette' Recap: The Taiwan Tightrope

. It’s hard to believe, right? I mean I feel like three days ago, Ashley was in the comedy club crying in the corner because all 25 guys were making fun of her strawberry-sized (and not the big farmer’s market kind) breasts. But last night, it seemed that there really are only six guys remaining. And so with that, we watched as they traveled to Taiwan to meet Ashley, who in the beginning of the episode, stared off into the mountains while shifting her little Jabbawockeez-approved dancer’s legs, told us that home visits are coming up soon and the only way she’ll go home with a guy is if she feels like he’s the whole package. Which seems reasonable, you know – you don’t want to go home with a guy who’s totally great, with a great job and a great face and a great understanding of what kind of pink shirts are okay for him to wear, but just has this weird thing about using guitar picks to eat his food. So Ashley’s coming from a good place, everyone.


Okay, never mind. Ashley’s an idiot. Who thinks train rides are romantic? Chances are you’re on a train with your boyfriend because you’re going to one of your families’ houses, and because it’s a holiday, you can’t sit next to your loved one and instead, have to sit next to a guy eating an egg salad who’s too busy playing chess on his Kindle to let you out into the aisle so you can go to the bathroom. Trains BLOW harder than a purple college rape whistle that freshman get from their RAs. The only way they’re romantic is if you and your boyfriend decide to stand for the whole ride (because there are no seats together), and stay in the little dark closets where people can put their wide-ass luggage and grope each other. That’s the only way a train ride can be romantic. Anyway, Ashley chose the first one-on-one date to be with Constantine, and she explained that she was taking him deep into some village (don’t you love how Ashley continues to take credit for the dates that someone else orchestrates for her? I do. It’s amazing how she can sit there, in some recording room, and say, “I’m taking Constantine to a beautiful village.” As if she knew about this “beautiful village” before the resident tour guide at the hotel told her about it! It’s just a funny).

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Sometimes I manage to give them pretty good advice but other times I’m just as clueless as they are.  I didn’t date much before I got married. My husband was my second serious boyfriend. We dated for three years before we tied the knot, but it was a relatively fuss-free period. We just hung out and talked for hours.

But as I look back, I realize my good fortune in finding a guy like my husband wasn’t really a result of anything I did. I met him and thought he was a great guy. Other than a spark that told me “Don’t let this one get away!” I didn’t really take any calculated moves to land him. There were no “rules” set by someone else that I followed; I kind of made up my own and what do you know? It worked.

I don’t consider myself to be an expert on dating, which is the stage they’re at in the their lives. They want to know how to find a guy they like, how to figure out if he’s a keeper, and how to keep things interesting as they continue to get to know each other.

Now, I’ve been there, done that and got the ring to prove it. But when they come to me with these questions, I admit I can be stumped. Which they don’t understand. “But you’re married,

At that point I’ll usually pull out my standard “You’ve got to be yourself and if he doesn’t accept you for who you are, then you know not to waste your time” speech, but past that, I leave it up to them.

All of this had me thinking, If not a married woman, who should they be turning to for advice? Are their expectations dead on, in fact? I think about Demetria Lucas, author of the popular blog,  A Belle In Brooklyn, and the new book of the same name. She’s killing ‘em these days, dishing out the relationship advice that so many ladies (and men!) are dying to hear. But she’s still single. Does that mean anything? Based on her following, I’d say no.

I think about Hill Harper and his many books and media appearances talking about male-female relationships. He’s still single. (No wife that I know of.) Does that mean anything?

Steve Harvey caught a lot of flack for his super-successful relationship books with people claiming they didn’t want to listen to anything from a twice-divorced comedian. But again, notice I said they were super successful, with his first book turning into a movie later this year.